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The Listening Ear Recommends
Seeking some support as you try to figure out how to do more of what you love?
The Listening Ear Recommends is my way to share the gems I’ve listened to, that help empower you to create space for personal growth.
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Podcast episode
What I loved/learnt?
I love that they give realistic “homework” tasks to help you refocus and begin to make small steps into the direction you want your life to go in.
I did the time audit soon after the first time I listened to this episode. Although I had an awareness that activities constituted as “work” would take up a considerable portion of my time. There was something about seeing it visually plotted on a graph that really sent that message home. And got me thinking about how I can make changes so that the activities constituted as “work” were more enjoyable, and more of what’s important to me.
Why listen?
Do you feel you never have time to do what you really want? Do you feel over stretched with commitments made to others?
This episode gives you permission to really check in with yourself. Assess how you currently spend your time, money and energy and compare that with what is valuable to you. There is no pressure to make big changes right then and there. In fact they say to give it sometime, comeback at a later date and then start to look for small changes that can be made to spend more of your time, money and energy on what is most important to you.
Youtube video
What I loved/learnt?
I loved the relatable examples used to explain what can cause us to become disconnected from our feelings. And the acknowledgement that it is something that happens to all of us, for one reason or another.
They also put forward a suggestion for how we can begin to repair the disconnect. And make a suggestion of the benefits that can be gained by doing this.
Why listen?
Do you often ignore your gut feeling when you can’t quite place what it is trying to communicate to you. Only afterwards to wish you had listened?
This short video illustrates why we often find ourselves in a place of not fully trusting what we feel. And more importantly what we can do about it. If you want to create a stronger connection with yourself, this video can give some insight on what may have been overlooked to cause the disconnect in the first place.
Podcast episode
What I loved/learnt?
I loved the perspective they shared on how to understand our emotions with solution based definitions.
Often when talking about our negative feelings there is an undertone of blame. In some cases it may be very obvious, but in other cases not so much. I found the example they used for disappointment to be the most relevant for me.
I’m a person that’s pretty hard on themselves anyway so disappointment is an emotions I feel very intensely. And it causes me to try to attribute blame to myself or others for causing the disappointment. After listening to this podcast episode, the next time I feel disappointment. I am going to first take time to understand the granular details of the expectation that I held. Before I start looking to blame myself or someone else. With the intention that doing so will help me to develop the skills to understand how I can approach different experiences in a way that leads to fewer disappointments.
Why listen?
Do you want to improve the way you talk about your emotions and experiences, and build better connections with yourself and others?
An experience we will all have, at some point, is the desire to avoid people or situations that make us feel uncomfortable. Or anxious, angry, frustrated, disappointed, insert other negative emotion here. At times we may feel the emotion so intensely it distracts us from everything else. So much so the feeling appear to infect and influence everything else we do.
Having a better understanding of the meaning of our emotions, particularly the negative ones, can help us create better boundaries to maintain a balance of diverse emotions. Meaning negative emotions are not banished to the “naughty corner” or bottled up. Rather they are acknowledged in the moment and productive action can be taken to address the agitator.
